There have been times in my life when I’ve made jokes that crossed the line.
I knew it.
I felt it.
yet the other person just gave me a look and shook it off. I apologized, they moved on.
And then… there were times when I made a simple, light-hearted comment — and the reaction was explosive. I found myself shocked, thinking, “Wait, what? That really upset you?”
That’s when I started realizing something that has shifted the way I live, love, and respond to people:
👉 Your perspective shapes your reality.
👉 Your interpretation decides your reaction.
Anger Is Not Automatic
I came across a video recently that said,
“No one can make you angry.”
At first, I disagreed. Like, Of course someone can make me angry. People do irritating things all the time! vice versa.
But the speaker explained that anger is a choice.
Yes — someone can do something offensive, unkind, or careless.
But what determines your emotional response is how you interpret it.
You get to choose:
Do I react with fire?
Do I pause and breathe?
Do I ignore it?
Do I speak the truth in love?
It’s not always about what was done — it’s about what you made it mean.
You Can Hold On to Anger So Long… It Starts Holding You
I’ve been there.
You try to let go.
You say, “It’s not that deep.”
You talk to yourself like, “Bro, just move on. It's not worth it.”
You pray, you try — but the irritation lingers.
You’re smiling, but still mad.
You're “fine,” but anything small sets you off.
At that point, the anger you chose has now chosen you.
It becomes your lens. Your filter. Your fortress.
And breaking free? It feels like trying to escape your own shadow.
Perspective Is Spiritual
It’s not just psychology — it’s spiritual.
Even Scripture tells us:
“Be angry, but do not sin.” (Ephesians 4:26)
It acknowledges that anger will come. But it reminds us: you are still responsible for your reaction. You are responsible for how long you let it live in you.
In one of my past blog posts, I talked about agreement — how what you say yes to, you give power to. The same is true here:
If you say yes to offense, irritation, or bitterness, it will find a home in you.
And like unwanted guests, these emotions don’t leave on their own. You have to choose to let them go.
Transformation Takes Time
Let’s be real — if you’ve reacted a certain way your whole life, it won’t change overnight.
Some people flip the switch quickly. Others need time. Grace. Practice. Repetition.
That’s okay.
God isn’t looking for perfect people. He’s looking for willing ones.
And He’s faithful to walk with us as we grow.
Final Thought: It’s Not Always What Happened — It’s How You See It
You can be in the same room with someone, experience the same situation, and have two completely different reactions. Why? Because of perspective.
So here's the challenge:
Pause before you react.
Ask yourself: What meaning am I giving this moment?
Pray for clarity before anger gets a grip.
Your perception influences your decision.
Your interpretation drives your emotions.
Your perspective shapes your path.
So ask God to renew your mind — because when your view changes, everything changes.
Closing encouragement:
Stay blessed.
No stress.
Rest in grace.
And let God reshape how you see the world.